As I approach my 31st birthday next weekend, I am inspired to write again.
Those two things have very little to do with one another. It’s just that while I took this chance to write, I wanted to also remind you that it’s my birthday soon (and I’m accepting gifts). Ok, ok, they are somewhat connected in that my birthday is a time (like New Year’s) where I reflect back on my life and how it’s progressing. I feel quite good about mine and I felt it was time to get back to my creative hobby— writing.
This 30th year has been my best one so far. I continued my tech-related freelancing gigs, grew my Airbnb/rental biz with Mario (my partner and lover), cried a lot, was angry and irritable a lot (very sorry, Mario), laughed a lot, traveled a lot, and had some major personal breakthroughs. I believe my next year will be even better, and with that….
I have an announcement to make.
I’m not pregnant or engaged. Chill yourself, mom.
Ok, here’s my announcement:
I am committed to FUNEMPLOYMENT.
But wait, you’ve been Funemployed before, Miz…
You’re not wrong. Four years ago I quit my job for the first time and took a four month hiatus (since then I’ve quit many more jobs). At the time I coined my hiatus “funemployment” based on the fact that I was unemployed and having fun—emphasis on the unemployment. Like F-U-employment.
Now, four years later, through many attempts at various jobs and repeated cycles of self-denial, depression, anxiety, and self-discovery, I am officially FUN-employed. I am actually doing and committed to only doing work that lights me up, that’s aligned with intuition, my vision, and my purpose in life. Work that...when I think about it, I’m not like, oh shit I have to go do that....I’m like HELLS YES! Work that allows me to enjoy my life how I want to (think passive income while I traveled around Croatia & Spain for the summer! Yehaw!).
And now I’m back here, on this blog, to share some of the daily realities of funemployed life, the trials and tribulations that go with it, and some silly stories along the way.
I also want to do work that lights me up, Miz!
OK, what work lights you up? If it’s winning the lotto…I’m gunna have you close your eyes, take a few deeps breaths…and get a new dream. If it’s playing with puppies all day… OK, we can work with that (think dog trainer, owning a dog wash, boarding dogs). We can make the puppy dream happen. I cannot help with the lotto.
A somber story about the lotto…
When I was young my neighbor’s ex-husband actually won the lotto. He later died by suicide in his ex-wife’s house (my neighbor). I was home with a babysitter when this happened and another neighbor came to the door. I answered, and she told me what happened, with sirens blaring in the cul-de-sac. I must have been ten years old. It was quite shocking to my young brain. So with that said, I don’t have a favorable bias towards winning the lottery. That’s why it’s not a valid dream IMHO (that means in my honest opinion, mom).
I think with the lotto you miss the journey. People get the end goal of “OMG, I’m rich” very suddenly, and there’s no journey to be satisfied with (remember that whole “it’s not about the destination, it’s about the journey” thing?). So, while I do believe it is actually possible to win the lotto, I just don’t recommend it. And I wouldn’t sit back waiting for it to happen like, “Oh, if I could just win the lotto everything would be better.” NO. People who sit in bleak cubicles under fluorescent lighting all day always say this. DO NOT be a bleak cubicle person. Winning the lotto won’t make you happy. It won’t solve your problems. Get a new dream, please.
Ok, now I have my new dream. I want to be funemployed too. Now what, Miz?
Well, you’ll have to wait for another blog post. Based on my track record, it could be a long time, so in the meantime, make a vision board and wait patiently.
I promise I won’t make you wait too long, and I promise I can help you also achieve a life of funemployment! More to come my friends :)